Money and Miracles with Emily King

[Ep 94] *LIVE* Unlocking Abundance: Believing "It's safe for me to have more"

• Emily King - Money Mindset Coach, TEDx Speaker, Business Coach, Money Expert

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What if you could unlock the secret to living a life filled with abundance and joy? In this transformative episode, Emily challenges the deeply ingrained belief of "too much" and explores how early life experiences and societal conditioning shape our mindset around abundance.

Through heartfelt guided visualization and introspection, Emily invites you to examine your own beliefs and identify the origins of these limiting thoughts. To wrap up, Emily takes your through a Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) session, helping you release limiting beliefs about abundance and self-worth.

This episode is a powerful reminder that it's safe to have more and that thriving in a nurturing setting is key to realizing your fullest potential.

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Speaker 1:

Hello everyone. So for the remainder of this month, all of our podcasts are going to be first done as live workshop trainings on social media, either Facebook or Instagram, and then they're going to be uploaded here. So we just did a workshop today on it's safe to have more, and we're going to get into why that's so important, how we block ourselves from having more, and overcoming this feeling of too much, like that's too much for me to have, I'd feel guilty, that's selfish, that's greedy, and really helping you step into this feeling and knowing that it's safe for you to have more and that it's your divine birthright Like that's what you get, that's what you came here for was to live and to be part of this life and this universe and this beautiful place that we live. So I'll leave it at that. Enjoy the workshop and if you want to join us next week, make sure to check out my Instagram page where I'll be posting the day and time that we're gonna be going live, and make sure you're on my email list. If you aren't already, go to emilykingca to get on my email list so you are up to date when we're doing these live workshops, because they are amazing. And also in the meantime, I'll link up below. We are doing pop-up coaching sessions this month. I've had a couple already. They are so much fun and you can get some profound changes in just 45 minutes of working together. So if you've been wanting to work together with me, this is your chance to do so, where I'm offering these one-off single session pop-up coaching sessions for this month only. Okay, so enjoy this workshop and we'll see you at the end.

Speaker 1:

Hello and welcome to the Money and Miracles podcast with me, emily King. We call ourselves Rich Women over here because we are all about living the rich woman life inside and out. We take the taboo out of talking money and we say yes to our desires, and each week I'll be bringing you a dose of money, mindset and relatable life stories so you can go out into the world and live your best freaking life. Let's do this. Rich Woman.

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First point I want to make, just to kick us off, is that too much, this notion of too much and I know this training is called it's Safe for Me to have More, and I'm intentionally switching it to too much, because there's a point where our internal system goes okay, I can have more, but not that much Like you want me to have? How much Like whoa, like calm down here. So we go into this kind of alarm mode of like no, no, no, that's too much what you just said. So let's just like, let's, let's take it down a notch. Okay, kathy, okay Betsy, all right.

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And so, first things first is that too much is made up. Can we all agree that you have made it up? There's no universal rule book, law, um scale that has been set in stone, carved in a stone, and somewhere in Ireland that says this is the point where it now is too much, right, this is the point where everyone needs to back it up a little. So can we get that too much is made up? We have to understand that first and foremost. Okay, so if we know that too much is our own internal self-belief system and we're going to get into a minute of where did we, where did we come up with this too much system?

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Some of you may have got it from a parent, an authoritative figure. Maybe you experienced something so simple where you got excited in a grocery store when you were a kid and said, like I want to get this bag of cookies and your parent, kind of like I, was like no, put that back. You can't have that. And it could have started as early as that with something so simple of like oh shit, I asked for too much. I shouldn't have done that. I'm going to get in trouble if I asked for too much. So how is it a problem and I want you to explore this for yourself because it's going to be unique for everyone here listening, watching this replay, listening on the podcast, because this is going to go on the podcast.

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But how is it a problem and I'd be curious to know if you guys want to comment in the comments how is it a problem for you of having a scale of too much? Because here's the thing, as you're kind of contemplating that for yourself, actually, I'll give you some, some examples just to kind of get the wheels turning in your head. It's a problem because maybe you're not giving yourself more time freedom, because that's too much. Who are you to have that much time freedom? Maybe you're not making as much money as you'd like, because that's too much. That's greedy, that's selfish. There's other people in this world that need it more than you'd like. Because that's too much, that's greedy, that's selfish. There's other people in this world that need it more than you. So your belief system tells you that's too much to have three vacations in a year, right? Who does that? So you shut it down and you take one vacation a year, maybe no vacations in the year. So how is having this scale of too much a problem for you and, as you're contemplating that for yourself?

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And it's very important to understand how this is a problem, because awareness is the key to changing anything. If we can be aware that wait a minute, it's just my belief system around this too much thing that's holding me back, then we can bring in some changes around it and some shifts and challenge this belief system of too much. So here's the thing is that many of us unfortunately, I will say will say is we hold ourselves back out of false beliefs that in us having too much, it takes away from others. Let me give you an example and this is going to sound ridiculous to your mind, but we do this in other situations. So let's say you're watching here now and I'm obviously teaching this live stream. I'm not sitting here going.

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Oh my God, emily, don't you have too much health? Don't you stop breathing, like, maybe go to the top of your stairs and fall down the stairs and break your leg and maybe hurt yourself because, emily, you're feeling too healthy right now and, emily, your health, that's going to make the people in say the hospital, that's going to make those sick people feel bad about themselves. Right, we don't do that. Actually, some of us do, unconsciously, where we are making ourselves sick literally because we feel bad, we feel like we need to go down to someone's level and we have this false belief that if I feel sick enough, drained enough, tired enough, poor enough, unworthy enough, that will make others feel good about themselves. We'll all be at this even keel. Everyone will be good.

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But if someone is in a ditch with no way out and I look down in the ditch and I go, I'll come down there with you so you don't feel so shitty about yourself, so you don't feel so stuck down there. Wait, just give me one minute, I'm going to come down and I, you know, give myself a little run and I jump on in. Then that makes two of us stuck in the ditch that now need to be rescued, right? So Kathy brings up a great point here. You know it's a problem because you start to believe be grateful for what you have, you don't need any more, yeah, and yeah, we start to kind of like shrink and we're going to do something in just a minute to have you put yourself in that situation on how we shrink and how we just go just be grateful for what you have.

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And this is not to say that if you are asking for more, if you're wanting to kind of push that limit of your kind of top level of happiness, of energy, of money, of abundance, of all the goodness, if you want to push that level like what else is out there for me, that doesn't mean that you're ungrateful for what you have. In fact, by the law of attraction, technically speaking, we can only create more when we are in the abundance prosperity consciousness already. Does that make sense? We cannot generate that which is not within us If we are in lack going. I want this, I want this, I want this. We are in the wanting, we are not in the having, in the being of it. So, like I said, in just a minute we're going to do something really profound. We're going to feel the difference of being in the wanting I need more and being in the being of. I have more, I am more, I am wealth.

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Just a little side note I do this thing now where, when I'm going for a walk or going for a run outside of nature, I will do these. I am statements, I will do these, I am statements and they perhaps grammatically, english wise, don't make sense where I say things like I am money, whatever the thing is that I'm desiring, I already embody it. It's like I don't say, I don't say I am an Emily, I am Emily, I am Emily, I'm in the embodiment of it, I am her. So I am confidence, I am power, I am money, I am enriched, I am love, I am abundance. I just go right for the I am and then fill in the blank of what it is, that thing that I desire, and I go into the embodiment, the identity of it. Because belief system is actually below identity. Beliefs naturally fall from identity. So if I can change the identity first, belief systems become a whole lot easier. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, kathy goes through waves, you're in alignment. Then pop out and get back into that. And a little side note, and we'll get back on track. Here is I liked I actually I think I did a podcast on this Is that where I said sometimes not always, but sometimes misalignment is the alignment we falsely label it as I'm misaligned, I'm out of alignment, I'm not doing this right.

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But perhaps that feeling of discontent, of like your compass is pointed in the wrong direction, so to speak, is actually the alignment pulling you back into the wave, right? It's like if you can imagine being at a beach and standing in the ocean, if you face the shore and there's a big wave coming up behind you, you're going to feel like boom, it hits you right and you go, whoa God, right, that's the universe, that's God going, hey, we're here, right. But if you just turn and face the waves, you can either decide to dive in right, you can decide to swim on top, you can decide to walk back into shore, whatever it is. But if we're not facing it, then it hits a little more harder. I guess we'll say, okay, so here's where we start to dismantle this kind of um. This is where we get into the coachings part. This is the fun stuff here.

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So we understand too much more is a belief system. It's made up, you've made it up, I've made it up. We all have a made up set point of what too much is. We know that it can cause us some I don't want to say grief, but it can cause us to hold back, to stay small, to not be living in our fullness of that which we desire. So now we're going to move into the curiosity of this and starting to play with it and start to reform it. Okay and hey, chelsea, good to see you here. Okay and hey, chelsea, good to see you here.

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So here's what I want you to do for a moment. If you are listening to this or watching this and it's safe to do so I'd like you to close your eyes for a moment. And if you are unable to close your eyes, it's totally okay. But just kind of get into a pause moment for a second, taking a breath in and out. And I want you to imagine a situation where you feel like that's too much. Could be receiving more money than you've ever had before. It could be having an elaborate vacation, could be staying at a five-star hotel, could be purchasing a new cottage, whatever it is.

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Go to that point where a part of you says this is too much, where a part of you says this is too much, and it could be a past experience you've had or perhaps something in the future that you dream of, doesn't matter. Just pick something. And I want you now, with your eyes closed and just intuitively, whatever your heart guides you, to let your head and your conscious mind kind of take a break for a moment. Let your unconscious answer this for you. I want you to answer this Says who Says who? Who said this is too much?

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And get curious without judgment, okay, and notice who comes up. If, like I said earlier, if it was a parent figure, if it was a teacher, if it was a coach, someone that said that's too much, and you misunderstood that particular scenario and took it into many other areas of your life. So, just like I said, get curious without judgment. Just, oh, interesting, that's where that started, that's where that came from, and we're going to go back to that in just a moment. But you can open your eyes if you haven't already, and I'm going to ask a few questions and this is where I want you to go internally and you might have a vision come to you of a scenario or perhaps, maybe you just get a feeling within you like you feel it in your chest, or you feel it in your hands, or you feel it in your neck or your back or whatever, so you might just get a sensation, you might hear something. However, it appears to you is perfect. Or maybe you feel like I got no idea. That's also okay, because just even putting the intention out you is perfect. Or maybe you feel like I got no idea. That's also okay, but because just even putting the intention out there is enough, okay. And just being here tells me and tells the universe that you are working through this and you're doing the energetic work to shift this. So I'm going to ask a few questions to you.

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You, where might you have judged someone harshly for having too much? And we've all done it. So this is not to shame or blame or point fingers at anyone, we've all done it. Where might you have judged someone harshly for having? What you believed was too much could be anything at all. What you believed was too much, it could be anything at all. Just as an example, the house I grew up in our next door neighbors inherited millions of dollars and with that they decided to bulldoze their home and the home next to them not ours, the home on the other side of them and build a multi-million dollar mansion with their inheritance and for the longest time I had judgment on that. Like that is ostentatious, like that is too much, who needs to do that? Right? So I harshly judged.

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Second second question where might you have witnessed someone being judged for having too much? So you are not the judgee, so to speak, but you are witnessing, huh, someone's being judged right now for having too much. And once again, let let's stay out of the judgment of ourselves in those situations and just observing this. Okay, interesting, that's a situation where I witnessed someone being judged for having too much. Okay, interesting, because we're going to explore this in just a second. But if we explore this with an undertone of judgment and shame, we're not going to get anywhere. And just noticing, staying curious, very curious, as if we're doing like a science experiment here and we're just going to write down our observations. Like you're a total observer, I've hired you to go into the brain of you and observe this of you, and observe this.

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Notice what goes on in the picture, the story, what goes on within you when you experience the thought of that's too much, perhaps a spin on that is I'm too much, I took too much, that's too much to ask for Whatever kind of spin, your flavor on it, so to speak. Notice, just notice what goes on in the story. How does that feel in your body? What belief system comes along with that? When you believe, when you have the thought of too much, just pause with that for a moment. How does that feel in your body? Where do you feel that? Where do you feel that? On a scale of 1 to 10 for you? Notice what goes on in your body. Notice the sensations, the feelings, what you hear, what you see when you're in the thought of too much.

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Now I want you to imagine that you're witnessing this movie, this situation, and you've been feeling it for the last minute or so, and I want you to just imagine it's just like an old VCR that we hit play on. I want you to just put your finger out, and you can literally do this put your finger out and just imagine it's just like an old VCR that we hit play on. I want you to just put your finger out, and you can literally do this put your finger out and just imagine pushing pause on that movie for a second. So just completely put it on a pause, good. And as we pause that movie, I want you to ask yourself is it possible that your thought is untrue? Just asking yourself the question is it possible that this thought story is untrue, yes or no? And only you can know the answer to that. There is no right or wrong, but is it possible? Is it just possible, even a 1% chance that this story is untrue? And if your brain is saying no, it's absolutely true, this is the way it is, emily, then just play with me here and just go. Okay, emily has given me permission just to say what if it's untrue? Okay. So if you're not there yet, we're just going to step to say what if it's untrue? Okay. So if you're not there yet, we're just going to step into the what if this is untrue.

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What I want you to do now is you're going to rewind that tape. So rewind, go right back to the beginning and, once again, maybe you'll see things, maybe you'll just feel things, maybe you'll just breathe, and that's perfect. I want you to go back to that situation and you're going to hit play, but before you do, you're going to clear your mind, clear the story of too much, the thought of too much, does not exist. It does not exist at all. And hit play whenever you're ready and notice a situation without the thought of too much and notice who are you without the thought. How does that feel differently? What are the sensations in your body without the too much, when you're just completely released of that thought? What identity is embodied within you then? How might you interact with people differently? How might you interact with yourself differently? How does that feel within you without that thought? Knowing it's possible, it could be untrue, okay, good, and you can open your eyes.

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Coming back to now, guys, coming back to now, so borrowing from the work of Byron Katie, is to ask yourself the question who would I be without this thought? Every single person here I would be willing to bet a lot of money would be completely different without the thought in the situation. How did the situation change for you, guys? Let me know in the comments. How did how did it change for you? What shifted? What sensations did you feel different in your body? Did maybe before, if you had like kind of like a strain in your neck? Was that released when you no longer could even think? The thought didn't exist? Let me know.

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Okay, and as you're doing it, I'm going to share a quote with you, and I don't know who this came from. I'm sure if I took a second to google it I could find it, but as you're, as you're commenting there you're commenting, there's a quote, you know, we you hear it often it's too good to be true, too good to be true. Something's got to give. Like. Like when's the other shoe going to drop? Like something, something is going to happen. Emily, because it's too good to be true, here's a new mantra I want you to take with you. Put this one in your back pocket. Whenever you catch yourself having this feeling or thought of it's too good to be true, you're going to say instead it's too good, it must be true. It's too good, it must be true. Right, pretty fun. Hey, right, pretty fun. Hey, beautiful. Okay, rochelle, more expanded sense of being.

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Betsy made a shift about wealthy people. Exactly right, really interesting, because life is just a story we're making up every single day, and when we feel pain, when we feel suffering, when we feel pain, when we feel suffering, when we feel inferior, we are stuck in a story that is not true, and the best thing you can do for yourself in that moment is to check in with yourself like we did earlier. Is this thought ultimately true? Is it the ultimate truth? Could it be unt, untrue and then spin it with who would I be without this thought? And if you check into that situation, scenario, story, without the thought, and it feels a lot lighter, it feels a lot more peaceful, then you know you're onto something. Okay, kathy, spacious and fertile, fertile, luscious, love that luscious, beautiful.

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So to wrap up, so to start, um, we talked about, you know, the fact that too much is a self-imposed belief system. We got curious about where have we bought into this story? Is it always true? If it's not true, how can we change it? And the point of that was to realize that you are in the driver's seat. If there's a situation where I just ask you, who would you be without this thought, what does that situation feel like about the thought? And boom, within seconds you feel lighter, better, more luscious, a shift, more expanded. Then that gives your brain evidence I have the power to change this. And how phenomenal and amazing is that If you have the power, within seconds, to change it. So, last but not least, the last part of this training that I want to share is really allowing yourself to step into the too muchness, so to speak. And before I do that.

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There's kind of like a little side tangent I want to go on for two seconds just to share with you is that some of us are in environments that don't foster growth right. Let me give you a personal example. So I am not a gardener. I do not have a green thumb I have. I don't even know what color thumb I have, but it's not a green thumb I have. I don't even know what color thumb I have, but it's not a green thumb. But I do my best and I buy the bare minimum for the garden and you know we do what we can here.

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So a few years, and the thing is, my grandmother is an avid gardener. She's obsessed with gardening, has won awards for her garden back in the day, like she's obsessed with gardening, has won awards for her garden back in the day, like she's obsessed with it. So her and I go to the nursery a few years ago and we pick out some little small like I guess they're like cedar bushes, I don't even know what these things are called we plant three of these in the front of my house, in front of my like master bedroom window. So I planted them probably I guess this might be like three years ago, in front of the house. First year they're fine, right, they're doing their thing, they're getting established. You know they haven't really grown much. They're doing their thing.

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Second year I start to notice they're getting a little brown, getting a little lackluster. And I was doing all the right things, so to speak. I had these fertilizer sticks that I had put in the ground and my cedars in the backyard were thriving, because the backyard gets a lot of sun, and they were growing and they were green and luscious. But the those little bushes in the front that I was also fertilizing and watering and doing all the same things were slowly starting to turn brown. The next year I thought, okay, these are really starting to look like little, like sticks in front of my house.

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You know it's not very appealing for to have these three bushes in front of my house when they look like they're all dead and dying. So finally, last year I went enough is enough. This spot doesn't get enough sun. They will never thrive, no matter how hard I try, no matter how much I water them, fertilize them, put new soil down, whatever, they will not thrive here because it does not get enough sun, and this particular plant needs sun. So I dug all of them up One of them I just had to throw it all together because it was like beyond dead and then the other two I transplanted and I and I put them out in the backyard. This year the life is starting to come back into them, like I can literally see it out my window there now. It's green, it's no longer brown, it's coming back to life, and I've done nothing different besides move it from the front of my yard to the back of my yard, where my backyard gets a lot more sun.

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And so I share that example, because some of us, no matter how hard we try, no matter how much mindset work we do, no matter how many coaches we hire, programs we do, events we get ourselves to, if we are still in an environment that doesn't foster our growth, it'll be really difficult to step into the too much, to step into the too much, to step into the more, to step into the abundance that you so deserve. And so I know sometimes it's easier said than done of like get a new environment, get new friends, blah, blah, blah. But there are things that you can do, like some of you here have been in programs with me before you're getting yourself in containers where people are supportive. So I want to share that with you, because environment is so important and it can make a world of a difference, especially if you feel like you're doing all the quote, unquote, right things and and you feel like you're not making much traction. Okay, kathy, I love me a good gardening analogy, and I'm surprised that analogy came out of me. Like I said, I do not have much gardening experience in me.

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So what we're going to do to wrap up, we're going to do a quick little EFT round Okay, probably like five minutes, and then we'll hang our hats, say goodbye, farewell, and then we'll see you, possibly on next week's live training. So let's do this. If you're unfamiliar with EFT, it is a beautiful way to move energy, release energy and feel a shift. So you'll follow along with me, you'll just repeat after me and you'll experience it and feel it and feel the shift by the end of this. So you're gonna tap the karate chop point to start, and too much for me.

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I deeply and completely love, honor and accept myself, even though a part of me stops me when I feel like that's too much. Maybe it's too greedy, maybe it's too selfish. Maybe it's too much time, too much to ask for. I deeply and completely love, honor and accept myself. Love, honor and accept myself. Even though there's this part of me that feels too much is too much. I deeply and completely love, honor and accept myself and anyone else who may have contributed to this belief.

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Okay, so we're going to tap on the eyebrow. Point it's too good to be true. It's too much. Don't ask for too much, because you might get punished. All eyes might be on you if you have too much. You might be judged, people might not like you, might be unsafe.

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So part of me says let's just stay where we are. Let's just stay at average, maybe even below average, just to be sure. Maybe below average, just to make sure we're not stepping on anyone's toes. So I got cozy there for a little while. But a part of me feels uncomfortable here too. Isn't that interesting? Denying myself my desires feels uncomfortable.

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Believing the thought of too much is too much doesn't sit quite well with me. So I'm getting curious about that, isn't that interesting? What if, perhaps, I'm actually living a too much life right now? Wait a minute. I am living a too much life right now. Wait a minute. I am living a too much life right now, in all the beautiful and glorious ways. My breath is too much.

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This beautiful day I've been given, one could argue, is too much. Someone else didn't get this day and I did. The job or income that I have, that's too much than other people's. It might be below other people's but it's definitely above someone else's. So one could argue I'm living a too much life and I don't even want to argue with that how beautiful it is.

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The universe has gifted me too much. The universe is a beautiful, too much universe. The miracle of how we come to be in this world it's too much for the brain to fathom. The miracle of the solar system we live in that is too much for the logical brain to fathom. There's a lot my logical brain cannot understand and I love that. So why not me?

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I'm now realizing why not me. If this universe is divine and overflowing and abundant, I'm choosing to be a part of that. I'm done with last place. I'm done with believing I'm a victim. I'm done with the murder syndrome and I'm putting myself in an environment to thrive and that environment first starts within me and I love and appreciate that part of me that believed too much was unsafe. That believed too much was unsafe. Oh, how I love and appreciate that part of me, just like a kid thinking there's a monster under the bed. There was no monster, there never will be a monster, and I thank that part of me for trying to keep me safe. And now I know that I'm worthy and deserving of too much. And I now know and believe that my visions and desires are unexpressed, truth wanting to move through me. I'm allowing this to move through me right now my desires and visions, allowing them to pour through me now, allowing myself to take inspired action, allowing me to believe in more, allowing me, at a cellular level, to know my worth, allowing myself to love this beautiful life I've been given, allowing this to integrate in body, mind and soul.

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Good, take a deep breath in and exhale. Okay. So that's the end of that live workshop that we did. If you enjoyed this podcast, I would love it if you subscribed, left a review, shared it out with a friend and even you know. If you want to send me a message on Instagram, let me know what your biggest takeaway was from this special live stream that we did. I hope to see you next week for our next special workshop and in the meantime, like I said, if you want to book in a pop-up coaching session with myself, feel free to check out the link in bio, and if you want to follow along visually with the EFT tapping session that we did on this podcast, I'll also link up the YouTube link to go watch the live stream video of this. All right, bye for now.

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