Money and Miracles with Emily King

[Ep 100] recap from the Powerhouse Women's Event (part 1)

• Emily King - Money Mindset Coach, TEDx Speaker, Business Coach, Money Expert

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Ever felt out of place, only to realize you truly belong? Join us as Gina Keeping and I recount our transformative journey at the Powerhouse Women event hosted by Lindsay Schwartz.

From a high-profile PR event in New York City to a pivotal Tony Robbins seminar, we share how these experiences have shaped our professional paths and personal lives. You'll hear about our upcoming Shift event in St. John's, Newfoundland, designed to offer a full day of empowerment and deep transformation.

We dive into the significance of female friendships and the power of authentic connections. Gina and I discuss moments of self-doubt, the lessons of patience, and the importance of staying true to oneself. Drawing from our experiences and emotional breakthroughs, we explore how genuine support systems can lead to profound personal and professional growth.

Resilience in the face of failure and rejection is critical to success, and we emphasize the value of embracing setbacks as stepping stones. From meaningful personal missions to the concept of failing forward, we dissect how personal motivations can fuel perseverance.

Tune in for a compelling episode that promises to inspire and empower you to live your best life.

Links:

Gina Keeping Podcast: Keeping it Real

Tickets to the Shift event: www.jointheshift.ca

Speaker 1:

Hello and welcome back. I hope you are having an incredible day and if this podcast is kicking off your day, well then, thanks for hitting play and having me join you to start your day, and if you're listening later on the day, well then, hello, I hope you're having a great day. So today is a special little edition podcast because myself and my business partner from my other business, shift, wanted to do a joint podcast. We were actually splitting it up because it ended up being over an hour long podcast and, as you guys know, I like to keep things a little short and sweet because my attention span isn't the greatest, and so we're doing about a half hour. And so we're doing about a half hour part one on my podcast, obviously today, and then part two is getting released tomorrow on Gina's podcast, which is Keeping it Real. I will link it up in the show notes so that, if you're listening to this a few days later, you can listen to part one here and then jump on over to Gina's podcast, the Keeping it Real podcast, and listen to part two.

Speaker 1:

So what am I talking about? Well, you may or may not know, a few weeks ago, myself and Gina got our butts to an incredible women's empowerment event. It was called the Powerhouse Women event and it was hosted by Lindsay Schwartz. It was my first time ever Women event and it was hosted by Lindsay Schwartz. It was my first time ever meeting her and, my goodness, her energy is the best. She is such a force to be reckoned with. She is so positive and you can just feel the warmth and love from her heart. Now I won't gush about her anymore because we get into it in the podcast.

Speaker 1:

So, without further ado, let's dive into the part one of this podcast. And I do want to say before we dive into it is that, as you probably know, I am co-hosting my annual shift event with the one and only Gina Keeping, here in St John's, newfoundland, on September 28th. It's a Saturday, it's an all-day event and if you choose to upgrade to VIP, we're going into the evening and we have some special surprises for you, some really fun surprises for the evening event. And it is truly a day of transformation. It is going deep into the depths of your soul. It is getting you out of your head, getting you into your heart, getting you to finally take that action, draw that line in the sand, do the damn thing, and I do not have enough time to tell you all the stories of the women who have gone to the shift event in the past and changed their lives. It is truly incredible and changed their lives. It is truly incredible.

Speaker 1:

So tickets close. The doors close to get your tickets on Friday, september 13th. So don't wait to the last minute to get your ticket because you ain't gonna get them. Doors are closing Friday, september 13th to get your ticket. So I would love to see you there and it's gonna be truly a life-changing event. I can promise you that. So check it out at jointheshiftca. I'll link that up in the show notes and let's dive in to part one. Hello and welcome to the Money and Miracles podcast with me, emily King. We call ourselves Rich Women over here because we are all about living the Rich Woman life inside and out. We take the taboo out of talking money and we say yes to our desires, and each week I'll be bringing you a dose of money, mindset and relatable life stories so you can go out into the world and live your best freaking life. Let's do this Rich Woman, this rich woman. So we recently just got back from an amazing event.

Speaker 2:

Yes, we went to lindsey schwartz's powerhouse women's event down in arizona in august, which was very hot.

Speaker 1:

Us newfoundland girls did not know what to do with that heat, but we persevered oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, we did, uh, but the running joke became how many times gina would say it's so hot out?

Speaker 2:

I. I was trying very hard not to say it, but man, oh man, she helped. But I do it all over again in a heartbeat.

Speaker 1:

Yes, yes, um, so on this podcast episode, we want to bring to you guys a few things, because both of us have been to personal development events and they have literally changed our lives, which we know sounds cliche, but it's true and that's what we keep getting ourselves into these rooms. So we want to kind of give you guys the overview of, you know, our personal experience and lessons that we got, the growth that we've personally had, and then also, I mean she had literally billionaires in the room, like some of the most incredible women in the world. So we want to bring you the themes like what are these very successful women doing, both internally and externally, to have such success both inside and out?

Speaker 2:

Absolutely, and even just share why this is such an important piece for us to be in these rooms, and we've had a lot of people reach out and be like, oh, like, are you going to share your experience? And we just love bringing these experiences to you and showing you just experiences that we've gotten ourself into and how it has, like Emily said, really completely changed our lives and I know I know that sounds like really corny, yeah, yeah, and it's like, okay, what does that mean? But it truly has. Like, if you look back at our experiences, um, but this one was really special yeah.

Speaker 1:

So just to back up, like personally and I know, gina, you're the same thing is that both of our first big events that we went to was a Tony Robbins event.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, we both went by ourselves, we did and we came back and, well, you didn't even like you at the event made a life-changing decision yeah, I did and I'm getting emotional just thinking about it because that power of one decision sometimes you don't know what you're going to get or what you even need from being in this room and I look back at that moment and I don't know where I would be today if I didn't intentionally put myself around heart-minded, heart-liked people who are just here to help expand you and help you in ways that you don't even know you need.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I will say this because some people can have a wrong impression of Tony Robbins, where they're like it's a cult, I know. But here's the thing, and yes, when you get to, for example, like a Tony Robbins event, it is like the energy in there. You can like feel it Absolutely and it is like, I'll be honest, you can feel it Absolutely, I'll be honest you do kind of feel like you're part of a cult 100%.

Speaker 1:

But here's what I realized when I was there. I was like we are part of a system, so to speak, inevitably, whether you're part of a cult that is pretty boring and lackluster, or whether you're part of a group of people that empower you and inspire you, like you're drinking a kool-aid either way 100. So it's choosing the kool-aid you want to drink, and when I was in the room I remember being like this is the energy I want to be a part of. Yes, I know we all seem like we are bananas here, like jumping up and down, you know, shouting our dreams and high-fiving and all that kind of stuff, but like who doesn't want to be part of that? Absolutely.

Speaker 2:

That's incredible and I think for me like I went on to become trained under Tony Robbins and I love him, but I would be lying if I said I wasn't looking for a female representation of that type of empowerment, which is what I think has led us to Lindsay's event, where it was just, uh, it was such a beautiful, beautiful event. Yeah, so I'd love to know, like why did you decide to go to this event? Like what was your why behind going?

Speaker 1:

So I haven't been to like an event like that. So, okay, let me, let me back up. The last live event that I was, uh, that I attended was a retreat, so it wasn't like a big you know hundreds and hundreds of people. I was at a retreat in New York city with a mastermind peer group where I was actually speaking, and it was just a one day thing and it was kind of low key and yeah. So, um, that was the last thing I had been to and it was lovely to meet the amazing people that I met there, but I wanted to be in a room of people that I didn't know and I knew I was craving a burst of inspiration, Because being a coach and being in this world, it can feel a bit like I don't know if monotonous is the right word- yeah, I think so yeah.

Speaker 1:

Where you kind of get into a groove and you need that little like kick in the butt and like that, like that shake up and wake up. And so, Gina, as you know, you had worked with Lindsay Schwartz and you were a big, hardcore fan of hers Very much I didn't know her very well at all, but when you said she's hosting this event in Arizona next year, I think we should go, I was just like. I trusted you fully.

Speaker 2:

Actually, I said I was going, and then you were like I'm going to go too. Oh did.

Speaker 1:

I yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2:

Because I was like I'm going.

Speaker 1:

And then you were like that trusting of. I could see that Lindsay had an energy that I wanted to be part of. I trusted you, gina, from working with her and being like okay, like, so it was just really a leap of faith and trust and going all right, like let's do this, yeah, so why did you want to get there?

Speaker 2:

Oh well, it's funny because um because I came across Lindsay last year right before her event happened in August and I had my aunt's funeral and I was going home to the West Coast so I couldn't attend live, but I signed up to watch her event, virtually, yeah, and when I watched the event I think it was the first time that I've seen a female in the space with the same heart as me.

Speaker 1:

Ooh, and I remember going.

Speaker 2:

I just felt like she. I'm getting emotional. I feel like you're such a beautiful person.

Speaker 1:

And I feel.

Speaker 2:

Sometimes I have felt like my heart has been too much and to see somebody lead like she did, it was just so inspirational for me to go. Okay, it's possible for me to have all these emotions, all these feelings, be very transparent, because I've been all about sharing the journey and I just felt this. I don't even know, I can't even explain it. It's like you need to work with her. So I sent her a voice message and I was like hey, I loved your event. How can I work with you?

Speaker 2:

And at that time, the only way that she was serving people was through her six-figure school, and we were already making six figures at the time. So I was like I'm not really making six figures. Is this a good fit for me? And she had said something beautiful of like you never know what you're going to learn from this, and even just to be in the community is everything. So, realistically it didn't really make sense. But right after she sent me that message, that voice message, I was like I'm just trusting this. So I signed up with her, just expecting to have a community, because we create a lot of communities and we expand a lot of people in our circles and I was just feeling like I needed someone to help lead me and stretch and expand me. Yes, which is the best feeling.

Speaker 2:

It's so good, it's invaluable, like I love paying to be in bigger rooms, absolutely so, yeah, and then once I did that, obviously I just saw her energy and her heart and the way she led and it was so beautiful and then led me to wanting to be in her space and in her energy and to see also how she led, even going through challenging times.

Speaker 1:

That was really important for me yeah, so let's get into our personal lessons from the event and maybe yeah, yeah, let's, let's get into that and I'm actually going to kick off yeah, absolutely so the biggest thing that I was so proud of um in growth that I had was feeling like I belonged in the room.

Speaker 1:

Oh, which is huge for me because I remember it was 2019. I was at an event in New York City and we were with with all these big wigs, these, you know, the who's who of so many different industries, and the whole event was about PR and getting yourself out there and making connections and that kind of stuff. And I remember coming home after the second night and crying to my husband on the phone, being like I don't belong here. Who am I to be here? And him just being like you belong in the room, like, oh, you know. And so doing this year over year over year, and finally getting into a room and just going I belong here and I'm not going to try to be someone. I'm not or try to impress people or have a fancy title or a fancy elevator pitch or I'm just going to be myself. Like that was a huge moment for me, going, oh my God, like I get to be me. So that felt incredible. Um, just to trust myself.

Speaker 2:

It was so beautiful to witness you having that moment, cause I remember you saying to me like I'm okay, like I'm okay with being where I am, yeah, uh, and it was really beautiful to witness that in you, so, yeah, so that was my biggest like Ooh.

Speaker 1:

And then, from an up-level perspective, watching and seeing and hearing these women's journey, both onstage and offstage, like people that we just met personally, I went home with this belief of I know I got this. Oh yeah, I know that my desires are inevitable and I know it's just a matter of time. And because you see that we're all so alike, so true, and you see that no one has this like golden ticket, so to speak, that they were handed at birth and it's like, oh well, you get the golden ticket and you get to get the things and all that kind of stuff.

Speaker 1:

It's like like even seeing Lindsay up on stage and I don't say this as a dig at her it's like she's such a normal person.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, right, like she's so awesome, like she's very real and authentic and yeah, she loves to dress up and all that kind of stuff, but you know that's her own personal fun that she has with it. But like, at the core, she's just like you and I and everyone else in that room with fears get to have it all, be patient, trust and just keep showing up with the consistency and I know we're going to get into the lessons of what they shared and there was about like that consistency and failure and all that kind of stuff. So, yeah, I just went home with this like massive belief in myself, this feeling of I got this and this inner confidence.

Speaker 2:

Oh, I'm so proud of you. Thank you, gina. I think for me, one of the most beautiful lessons for me or I guess, witnessing of myself was when I started Six Figure School with Lindsay. I wanted myself to be a beginner and allow myself to be supported. As much as I talk about and I help our clients and I help everybody who I come in contact with, to allow other people to support you, and I'm always that person to show up for other people I often don't let myself be supported.

Speaker 2:

Even to this day, I still feel I have to go about this all alone, and it was something that I was unraveling since September, moving right to here in August, and it was so beautiful to meet the connections that I made and these women became my biggest cheerleaders and allow myself to feel supported in female friendships. Because I'm a little bit of a jock, I'm a tomboy, if you will and I feel like most of my friendships have been male and sometimes I find it hard to let other women in. So, um, really letting my walls down and then seeing these friendships blossom even more and to kind of build on what you said, um, I just live and love so fully and deeply and I often hide that about myself and sometimes I do feel like I'm too much because, as you know, like when, when I love you, I'm going to do everything I can, I'm going to pour into you, I'm going to support you, and sometimes it comes across as a little something something. But I was like, no, this is just who I am and I love it about me. I love that I can love so deeply and being there and allowing myself to love deeply and just witness myself for who I am, um, and knowing that I can be that person and have the success, it was just a beautiful merriment for me to to witness myself. I still have work to do around this, um, but yeah, it's, it's, it was beautiful.

Speaker 2:

Like, even just as soon as I walked in and showing up at the hotel, I was like, ah, I know this feels good, yeah, and I know I'm about to step into something beautiful and I didn't know what it was going to be. Yeah, and I think it was really cool that we were both like no expectations, which is what we're going to talk about in a little bit. Yeah, but allow ourselves to experience and get what we need from the day, and it was different for both of us. Yes of us, yes, which was so cool.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, yeah, it was interesting. In comparing our notes, like your notes, I was like, oh, I don't remember that from the event.

Speaker 2:

And then vice versa, it's like, oh, interesting, like what we both took from the event, yeah, and what we needed I feel like there's just so much and what we also decided to do. Before we pushed record, we were going through all of our notes and we kind of found three common themes that we wanted to break down and share with you, based on the speakers and not even just the speakers, because I think sometimes people go to the events for the speakers but it was the connections also that we made with people who were sitting next to us and people who we met eating lunch and just things that also happened within us as we were experiencing the event in its whole.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I know we were going to talk about this later, but I'm just going to bring it up now. You never know who has the power to bless you 100% and in past events. It's funny because I think our ego thinks the more the better, as in, the more people you meet, the more contacts you make, the better.

Speaker 1:

Absolutely You've got to meet 20, know 20 people, yeah, and you gotta be. It's almost like it. Almost at least, personally, it can feel like kind of like a high school energy of like absolutely right, like get the gold star who can meet as many people. Yeah, and like the popularity contest yeah, when really this event I just went in with, like the quality over quantity, yeah.

Speaker 2:

Not that I didn't want to meet a lot of people, yeah.

Speaker 1:

But just really going deep with people. And I know from past events like that one back in 2019 I was talking about. I remember going home feeling kind of my ego was like kicking me in the head and being like you didn't meet so-and-so and you didn't make connection with this person and blah, blah, blah. And it ended up that one person that I met so randomly like she was a friend of a friend there, just kind of like a literal, like two-minute conversation, like hey, what do you do? This is what I do. Oh, great, cool, we should connect. Okay, yeah, cool. And then, you know, we'll connect later Ended up opening doors for me that I didn't even know were possible.

Speaker 1:

Like she had me come on her in her group program and you know she had hundreds of people in this group program. I ended up, you know, they ended up following me. So I got you know to work with some incredible clients. Turns out that she's best friends with Gabby Bernstein, who at the time was like a huge idol of mine, and so when I was at Gabby Bernstein's retreat, we were connecting.

Speaker 1:

And anyways it was just this cool like moment of like you have no idea, that one connection that you can make who can change your life.

Speaker 2:

So yeah, and even make your life better, like we made so many connections that we couldn't have possibly foreseen to help us, like, with things that we're struggling with. And it's just that power of getting into the room and just allowing yourself to be seen for who you are, yeah, can just open up so many opportunities and we didn't go with that intention, but it was just a byproduct of what happened. Yeah, you know, and I think really going to these spaces and not putting that expectation and that rule of what it needs to be, because sometimes that ego is leading you down a path that you're not even meant to go down. So for me, the whole weekend that I was like checking my ego and you know cause sometimes I'll be honest, like well, make sure, like you're, you're talking about this and I'm like no, gina, like just be yourself yeah you know you don't need to prove anything.

Speaker 2:

Um, and sometimes it's hard when you're a business owner, like you want people to see, and I think someone's being in Newfoundland. It's so hard because we have to travel to be in these spaces, so it's sometimes it's just like okay, well, how many people can I meet? Who can I? Who can I make a contact with? How can I stay in this energy even longer? So it was really cool for me to go. None of that's important. Yeah, you know, just be present and allow yourself to receive what you need.

Speaker 1:

And the best moments happened accidentally. Oh my.

Speaker 2:

God yes.

Speaker 1:

Like, if you think about Steph, who you knew from six years grade school, we went for a bike ride one morning with this girl that we met and we went and got smoothies a kaleidoscope, which was incredible, yeah and like that was just such a memorable moment, like it was so fun going for this bike ride and getting smoothies, and then we did the sound bath healing with her like, and then everybody from there was from the event, which was even cooler.

Speaker 2:

We got a picture.

Speaker 1:

So it was just like innocent, like let's go for a bike ride and go grab some food. That turned to be like one of the highlights, absolutely. And then you know, we went out for mexican food the night before we're leaving, yeah, and three people from the event ended up being at the restaurant and we were like we crashed their table like do you want to sit with us?

Speaker 1:

We're like, yeah, sure, so we ended up having this incredible like dinner with three people Amazing women Making more connections, and then it ended up one of them in particular for something that we want to grow in our business. She is like an expert at and she was like, oh my God, let's have a call and I can totally help you out with that, so once again, we weren't like we need to meet someone for this. It was just like it all kind of organically evolved and and unfolded.

Speaker 2:

And like I like two of those things.

Speaker 1:

The dinner and the bike ride were like two of my highlights.

Speaker 2:

I love that Same same. Yeah, it was really beautiful. This is kind of we didn't even plan on talking about this, but do you think that?

Speaker 1:

and I think you can tell yeah, yeah.

Speaker 2:

Because, as we, as you were talking, like there were some really genuine connections, yeah, but then there were some other people who it felt like they did have an agenda to be there. Yes, Right, and I don't know where why that popped up. But I think it's also important that, when you go to these type of events, um, to be genuine in your connections too, because I feel when you're not genuine, you can feel that too. So it's like be yourself, allow yourself to have a great experience.

Speaker 2:

But I think people can see through the agenda piece as well. Yeah yeah, I don't know where that came from. Yeah, anyway, should we dive into our three themes that? We've kind of narrowed it down? We shall, so do you want to share the first one?

Speaker 1:

Yes, the first one is to let yourself fail, and the more you embrace failure, the more you're actually embracing success. It was evident with every single speaker up there.

Speaker 1:

They all had a story of failure and some like massive failure, like literally, mary had a story of failure and some like massive, massive failure. Like, yeah, literally, um, mary, what's her last name now? I would just remember her miss skittles on on instagram mary seats, I think it is, I'll get her hold on. She was literally like like scraping together you know two dollars and she was sleeping above her store on an air mattress. Yeah, mary Seeds, yeah, she was sleeping on an air mattress above her store, like just allowing yourself to fail and not let that failure define you and define your success.

Speaker 2:

I think sometimes we're waiting to see the success before we allow herself to actually feel it. You know, yes, and seeing her, oh my god, I'm getting emotional just remembering her story of how she would be waiting upstairs. She didn't want any of her employees to see her so they wouldn't have that doubt. And it was just that reminder that you have to believe in yourself and your mission yeah, and you have to believe that you're good at what you do before others do. Yes, right, so it's allowing yourself to go first, allowing yourself to be that person who trusts yourself and know that you're good, and then the rest will follow. So fail, fail, fail, fail, fail.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and I think this is a question for anyone listening to reflect on. It's like what is your fear of failure costing you and not embracing failure, how is that holding you back? Yeah, Because I know, even from that event and kind of hearing these stories of failure, I was like right, like so. For example, there's a new program I want to launch and I didn't realize that it was fear of failure that was holding me back around. I'm like, well, what if I launch it? And what if nobody signs up? And what if it's a bit of a flop? And blah, blah, blah. And what if it's a bit of a flop? And blah, blah, blah? It's like who cares? You learned, you did it, You're proud of yourself. What if it's in? You know what's the best that can happen? Yeah, what if it's a hit.

Speaker 2:

What if?

Speaker 1:

it changes lives. What if even two people sign up and you change those people? Like, we're so quick to go to the failure and we're naturally wired for that? Yeah, we really need to consciously go. What am I missing out on by giving in to?

Speaker 2:

this fear, and what I love about Lindsay, I feel, is she really honestly, genuinely shows the failures and I think sometimes when you see people at Chapter 10, it's very easy to believe that it's always been a Chapter 10.

Speaker 1:

Yes.

Speaker 2:

Right. So, understanding that failure is part of the process. You cannot succeed if you don't fail, and I think I've adopted that mindset with my sport, where I know how to fail very well. Yeah, you know, and I think that has been one of the things in my business that I've been able to do well, like I fail a lot and I and I love that, but every time you fail, you're learning something that you need to help you succeed yeah, and I think there was kind of a sub theme with this failure is that it can feel like a splatter of a fail.

Speaker 1:

If you don't have that, why to pick you back up?

Speaker 2:

yeah, that was really evident for both of us during the event.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, so like lindsey, uh well, really every speaker, especially jamie kern lima, like she failed, failed, failed, failed, like hundreds of times, but she just knew in her heart of hearts her mission.

Speaker 1:

And that's not to say people listening like, yeah, you have to have this, like I'm gonna change you know, solve world hunger why yeah but if there's like this knowing in your heart and your intuition and that deep seat within yourself of I can't quit on myself, I got to keep going. You have to have some sort of why to pull you through, because otherwise you probably will quit.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and I think that's so important to talk about too. And, like you said, the why doesn't have to be like super tangible, like for me, the signature on my wrist of my dad after losing him when he was very young. For me, that's my why, yeah, and every time you would ask me it would change a little bit. But there's no way I'm going back to my teaching career or to a world where I had all that pain before. So teaching career or to a world where I had all that pain before.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

So sometimes it doesn't have to be I need to change like a million lives. It can be, yeah, but I think we all need that thing to drive us on the hard days because, if not, we can fall back to what our brain is designed to do to keep us safe. So for me, on those hard days, I have that little reminder, but I feel I've been disconnected from it a little bit. Yeah, so coming back to like even with shift, and just reminding ourselves of why we are doing the thing, uh, rather than just focusing on the thing itself you know it can be really powerful to infuse so much energy and passion, uh, into what you're trying to build.

Speaker 1:

And here's a question that I that I love to give, and it's from Seth Godin, which goes along with what you're trying to build. And here's a question that I love to give, and it's from Seth Godin, which goes along with what we're talking about, where you often hear people say, like, what would you do if you knew you wouldn't fail? Yeah, that's easy to come up with an answer, because if we know failure is off the table, it's like, well, I'll do this. But in Seth Godin's book I think it's called the Practice he says yeah, yeah, that's fine and dandy, but what would you do if you knew that you would fail? And for both of us, I know that we would still show up and do the shift event. Yeah, I mean, we faced it last time when ticket sales weren't going well and we were like shit.

Speaker 1:

Not shift shit, yeah, yeah, and we were still ready and we're like you know. At the time I think we had 20 odd sales or something and we were like we're gonna show up no matter what, no matter what, and we're gonna like honor the shit out of the people who have bought their tickets and love this like yeah and we ended up over 100 tickets.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, for that right, so it was a success, but we were willing to fail.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and that's when you know like you're onto something.

Speaker 2:

Absolutely yeah, and the other thing too is I think it's very easy to look at other people and go well, if I wouldn't fail, yeah, I'd speak on a stage. Or if I wouldn't fail, I'd do this. But sometimes those goals and dreams are not our own. So I think also helps us see what is our own and what we're willing to navigate to have what we really desire.

Speaker 2:

I say this all the time. I remember one of the only things that didn't come true on my vision board was abs, and I was like, why can't I get the abs Like I want it? And I had this moment of like I don't want to do what's required for me to have abs, it's not my goal, and I was a beach body coach at the time, so everyone was talking about abs. I want to be healthy, I want to be strong. Yeah, I don't want to have to do what's required for me to have abs. Yeah, my cellular dna does not lend easy to abs. So I had this moment where I was like, right, like that wasn't even my goal and dream, and if I wasn't failing and failing, I wouldn't have that self-reflection of do I really want this? Yeah, and am I willing to go through what I want to have that thing? And then I was able to go. That wasn't even my goal. So it's really powerful. Failure can teach you a lot if you're willing to look at it.

Speaker 1:

And some mindset shifts around failure. A few quotes from some of the speakers. So Natalie Jill she's now this multimillionaire woman living her dream, but she was saying, like at 36 years old, years old, she's like I didn't have any of this, like I think she said she was a single mom, didn't have the idea for her business. So basically she gave that kind of time frame. Not that age really matters, but I think some people, when they get to certain ages of their life, they're like, well, that's it, now there's my lot in life, you know. And at 36 she was like, no, I didn't have any of this. And now she's 50 odd years old and freaking well, crushing it. But one thing she said that I wrote down and that's a little mindset tweak that you guys can take home with you is I look forward to failures.

Speaker 1:

Yes, like if you can get up in the morning. Go, I'm looking like what can I fail? At today, yeah and I remember the example of uh, it wasn't shared at this event, but Sarah Blakely.

Speaker 2:

I was just thinking of the same.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, yeah, yeah we're Sarah Blakely, so for those who don't know, she's the founder of Spanx, and and a new line now yeah, sneaks, yeah, incredible and she's this incredible entrepreneur and but growing up, her parents, and her dad in particular, fostered a a sense of like embracing failure. So when she would come home from school, her dad would say what did you fail at today?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and they get so excited for their failures, which I think is amazing, and we just have to change the relationship to which we view failures, because I think when we think about failure, it's not the failure itself, right, because we were born failing, like when we were kids. How many times did we fall down before we learned how to walk? Like, yeah, we innately knew how to fail, but then we created a story about what failure means.

Speaker 2:

Oh, yeah so, the story yeah so we can change the story of failure, which is what I feel I have done, uh and I really attribute the power of sport to that, like I've been an athlete my whole life so, in in order for me to get you know at the level of which I wanted to, I had to fail and fail and fail and fail and fail, and all those failures actually prepare you for that success. So, yeah, it's got to happen, yeah.

Speaker 1:

A few other quotes I want to share from the speakers. There was a speaker there, Dr Amy Shah. A few other quotes I want to share from the speakers. There was a speaker there, Dr Amy Shaw, and she said you know, even with this whole failure, thing like don't dip your toe in. Jump Like jump in the damn pool. And she said when you're ready for failure, that's when you'll see success. Oof.

Speaker 2:

Right.

Speaker 1:

And not like the little like oh, I'll do an Instagram post and see how it goes. See if it goes, no Jump on into that failure and then that's when you'll see success. I personally believe the more willing, the more you are willing to embrace failure, and to whatever degree that is. I think on the flip side of that, that's how much you're ready to embrace success.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and the other quote that we wrote down, and I'm not sure who said this. It might have been Jamie Kern-Lehman, maybe I'm not sure, but the quote was if he brought you to it, he'll bring you through it. So if you were brought to a failure, you have what it takes to move through the failure.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

And I think we stop at the failure and don't even give ourselves the opportunity to build resilience, to learn the lesson it's like oh I failed.

Speaker 2:

People think this is like no, no, no, no, no. Like this is the opportunity that's brought to me. Maybe it was put my way to get me to that success, because I feel what we often do is we go this is what I want and then we go well, this is a, this is a way in which I should get it, but it's like no, no, no, no. You gotta go over here and over here and up here. You gotta learn all these lessons. So if you brought you to it, there's a reason why you're brought to it.

Speaker 2:

Maybe it's the lesson that you gotta learn it really humbles the ego it does and that one sat really beautifully with me because I did apply to be a speaker for the event and I wasn't chosen. And for me it was like what was my lesson in this? And I really wanted to to support Lindsay and like, like I said, like when I love, I'm like what can I do to support? What can I do? Um, and then when I didn't get, I was like, oh, like at first I was like what did I do wrong? I'm like no, no, no, no, no. Like the lesson was um, you know, I feel maybe if I thought, if I got on that stage, then then I'd be able to make the impact that I desire. But that's not the lesson that I needed to learn. I had to do some extra healing within me and it's who you become in that process right.

Speaker 2:

It wasn't about me getting on that stage, it was about me calling my shot, which.

Speaker 1:

I had a hard time doing yeah.

Speaker 2:

And I want a one on one call with Lindsay. And and I remember she said to me and I wrote it down sticky she was like it's safe for you to be seen. And as you know, emily, I still struggle with that, I still dim my light, I still I'm still afraid of like hurting people around me, like I mean, I'm really trying to work on those stories. So in a way, when that happened, I was like okay, I've got another layer to go Right. So I think my lesson in that for me, was to go deeper and to love myself deeper and to be proud of myself for calling my shot.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, right, I think sometimes I still wait for that external validation, even though I teach this stuff. It's like, ooh, like you know, I have this rejection piece. So for me, it was like I'm being, I'm being chosen. You know, I have this rejection piece. So for me, it was like I'm being, I'm being chosen, like somebody knows that I'm good, I know that I'm good, but it's like, oh, like they know, I'm good too, like maybe this is the thing. So for me, it was like coming back into my power and reminding myself and be like yeah, like I don't need to be chosen to to be good.

Speaker 1:

Yeah. So I think, kind of you know, as we're chatting this out, it's not only the theme of be willing to fail, but change your relationship with failure and the story you're, you know, attaching to it of failure is not rejection, no, exactly and if it weren't rejection then what is it absolutely?

Speaker 2:

and you know I have a lot of trauma in my life which you know I felt like I was almost like passed through that. So that was almost that little mirror of like, oh wait a minute, like there's still some extra healing to go there, um, and I don't think I gotta be honest I mean this is the first one I publicly said that I do struggle with that like rejection piece sometimes.

Speaker 2:

So, once again, this is healing, being able to talk about it and be able to, to move through it, because I as well and are afraid to put themselves out there or afraid to go to an event. Yeah, and you can do it and I know this is like a classic line, but you can do it scared. Yeah, you can do it and put yourself in these situations and witness parts of yourself and you won't crumble.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and even as you say like there are people out there who are, you know, facing rejection and even like, yes, maybe on paper it might seem as rejection, like you, didn't get the job. You didn't get this spot on the stage, whatever, but changing how we label that is that rejection or is?

Speaker 2:

that resilience building, yeah, and it can be both yeah, because yeah, you know, I think we're afraid of the word rejection, but rejection is part of life, yeah, right, and it is part of the process, of how you handle it and how you interpret it and how you move forward. Like some people will let rejection stop them, right? Some people won't get on the stage and will like never, I'm never gonna do that again, because that was too uncomfortable. But it's like seeing that, witnessing that, looking at yourself allowing it to, to, to grow you, yeah, and expand you, which is why we go to these events, you know, and it's so fucking uncomfortable yeah it's uncomfortable to be on a mic now, knowing people are going to listen to the internal growth, but I think that's what we need to talk about within these events.

Speaker 2:

You don't know what you need until you get into a room. You don't recognize parts of you if you're not willing to even look at it.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, so and just thinking out loud here as we're talking about this, I'm like, even for those of you out there that are our parents, like I know, with my little girl, zoe, who's almost three now. Um, you know, she started up in a new classroom just last week at school and my heart is like, oh, I hope she makes friends and like people like her and that kind of stuff. So even look at where you're afraid for other people to be perceived as rejected, yeah, and see if you can shift your relationship with that and really go. You know is, is my daughter getting rejected or is this just part of life and growth?

Speaker 1:

and like resilience building and you know owning her, her fun personality and that kind of stuff, and so I think, as parents, our hearts can break when we see our kids seemingly getting rejected or not getting the first place, or whatever. So that can be a starting point as well. As like when you see others you love, get you know. Quote unquote, rejected. How can we start to shift that, Because maybe that'll make the transition easier to then?

Speaker 2:

reflect on yourself.

Speaker 1:

Of like, because I think it's easier to see for other people. Of like you know, if a kid gets last place in the race, you know you're not. You're not as a parent going, you suck. Like what the hell happened in that race?

Speaker 2:

like yeah, you're going.

Speaker 1:

I'm proud of you for showing up in the race, absolutely because it's easy to show up when you're first yeah, right, it's very easy.

Speaker 2:

And I think, too, like we have this tendency to try and make it go away. You know, like, yeah, you know, oh, my God, that person never got picked. Like I need to go. And like, oh, I'm so sorry, I really wanted to pick you, but, or, you know, you're not having friends. Oh, I'll take you for ice cream every night to make it go away, yeah, but that is robbing us of opportunity, of growth. Yes, which is what's required for us to be our most favorite version yeah, you know yeah, and I think that's a great point.

Speaker 2:

It's really hard to watch the people that we love be rejected. Yeah, um, but who? Like I said, who we become in the process of navigating when things don't go as we would like could also be part of the plan yeah, and even like for shift.

Speaker 1:

You know, we put a call out for speakers a couple months ago of like if you want to speak on our stage, apply, and even my heart, like the people that didn't get you know. Quote, unquote picked so to speak my heart was like, oh, they're amazing, though, and I wish.

Speaker 2:

It's like I wish we could get everyone. I know, could we add some extra slots? Can we add the day? Right and at the end of the day it's almost like I had to shift my relationship with that process, even though like I wasn't getting picked, so to speak, but it was like we didn't want anybody to feel uncomfortable and that we didn't think they were good yeah, right, yeah, it didn't mean at all, they weren't good enough.

Speaker 1:

No, in any way, in any way, by any way, but really like, we shifted it to like, and I remember we sent an email out about this where we said you know, if, if you're applying to be a speaker on the stage and your goal is to get on the stage, like that should be the first place to shift your, your goal of like yeah, it'd be great, obviously, to get on the stage, but, like, apply for the sake of doing the thing that aligns with the person that you say you want to be Absolutely and you never know what part of the journey you are on.

Speaker 2:

to speak on a stage, I think. Sometimes we go I want to speak on the stage, we see an opportunity for you to speak on a stage. We apply, we don't get it. We're like, oh, I'm not meant to be, but maybe your first step of the process was just to apply. Then maybe you're practicing your speech. So maybe next year you apply and maybe you get selected, or maybe not. But like taking the expectation off how you think the journey is supposed to go and keep showing up. If you really truly want it, keep showing up. And one of my favorite lines is if not this, something better.

Speaker 1:

Okay, how about that? So you could obviously feel our energy, feel our excitement, feel all these huge takeaways that we have and, like I said, part two is going to get released tomorrow, so you don't have to wait very long on Gina's podcast, keeping it Real. Thank you for being here. I hope this inspired you to get yourself into rooms that expand you, that get you uncomfortable in all the best ways, and rooms that inspire you to be your best self. It's truly the best investment that you can make and I really hope to see you at the shift event. If you don't have your ticket already, so go to jointheshiftca. If you don't have your ticket and you want to go Once again, the event's happening on Saturday, september 28th, and we're there.

Speaker 1:

The whole day together, immersing all together at the Delta Hotel downtown St John's. And tickets close for good on Friday, september 13thth. So thank you for being here and bye for now.

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