[Ep 106] When you feel like you're 1 step forward and 2 steps back...

Facing money blocks right when you think you've figured everything out can feel like an unexpected plot twist, but what if it's actually a GOOD thing?! 

In today's episode of the Money and Miracles podcast, I share the powerful reminder that life—and our financial journey—is full of tests. I dive into the concept of money blocks, those pesky limiting beliefs that inhibit our flow of abundance. 

Just as pregnancy (hello 8 months pregnant here!) requires patience and endurance for the health and safety of mother and baby, tackling financial challenges head-on ensures long-term prosperity and ease. 

While the journey may be uncomfortable, rushing through it could have negative consequences. By embracing the unexpected tests life throws our way, we pave the path for both personal and financial growth. Tune in for personal stories and insights designed to inspire and empower you on your own financial journey.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Do you ever experience those moments where you just read this one line and it just hits you right in the soul, right where you need it? Well, that's what happened to me today, and immediately I knew this is the podcast episode for today. So let's do this. Hello and welcome to the Money and Miracles podcast with me, emily King. We call ourselves Rich Women over here because we are all about living the rich woman life inside and out. We take the taboo out of talking money and we say yes to our desires, and each week, I'll be bringing you a dose of money, mindset and relatable life stories so you can go out into the world and live your best freaking life. Let's do this rich woman All right. What was it that I read that had me go? That's the podcast for today.

Speaker 1: 0:57

Well, before I tell you, let me back up and give you a bit of context behind what I'm going to share with you, which is money blocks. You've probably heard me talk about them a lot on this podcast If you have no idea what I'm talking about. To put it quite simply, a money block is simply a limiting belief, or a BS belief, that prevents more money, more flow, more ease, more abundance from coming into your life. It could be something like you have to work really hard to make more money. It could be you know I wasn't born into wealth, so I'm not meant for it. It could be I can't afford it, I can never get ahead, etc. And why I bring up money blocks once again is because it's a foundational and fundamental piece of your money mindset work and if you don't get it and understand it, it's hard to move forward and grow your abundance and your money, if you don't understand how money blocks work and how they can show up in your life when you least expect it, how they can show up in your life when you least expect it. So this brings me to the quote that I wanted to share with you, which is this be prepared to be tested, be prepared to be tested. So in life we so often want the direct line from A to B no tests, no bumps, no rocky roads. Just give us the answer, please, and thank you and goodbye. Right, called tested or, so to speak, tested Many of us and how this relates back to money blocks. Many of us feel like we've done something wrong, where we've screwed it up. We didn't quote, unquote, fix it, so to speak, and we must be doing something wrong, because we feel like we felt before and we thought we've done all this work and what the hell is happening. Well, let me just share a little story with you.

Speaker 1: 3:11

Many of you probably know I am pregnant now. I'm eight months pregnant. I'll be having my baby, hopefully next month, and you know there's so many parallels between pregnancy and even just like having kids in general and life Pregnancy in particular, because it can be a freaking slog and I know everyone's journey around pregnancy is so unique and so different and I love that about pregnancy and motherhood and but I think that many of us can share or relate to. We kind of wish the timeline was a little shorter. Right, like I'd be lying if I said I wasn't counting down the days and weeks until my due date, even though you know a due date isn't overly accurate. But you know what I mean. I'm like, come on, get this baby out.

Speaker 1: 4:05

I'm sore, I'm tired, like today I napped for three hours randomly, almost missed picking up my kid from school because I almost slept through the evening. Um, like I'd be lying if I said I didn't want this pregnancy to be like done, like get this baby out. But I also know if I rush this process, if I don't allow myself to go through this hard, I could risk health complications with myself, with my baby, and it's the safest thing for everyone to hang in there, right, I'm not going to go to my doctor tomorrow, nor would my doctor let me, and I'm not going to say, hey, can we just induce me or do a C-section, like let's get this done and over with. I'm tired, my belly is sore, my back is sore. Like let's just do this and call it a day. Like baby can come out now, right, my doctor would be like, no, we need to leave your baby in there and wait it out until you know a little bit longer. But if I didn't know that it was unsafe, unhealthy, not good for me or baby to get baby out early. Let's just pretend we live in a world where I don't know. It's our first time ever doing this thing. Probably at like oh, especially at like three months pregnant, when you got all the nausea, the loss of appetite, you were getting all the morning sickness. Oh man, so many of us, if we didn't know how this pregnancy thing worked, would, at like, three months, four months, be like all right, let's call this a day, let's get this baby out. I'm sure it's going to be fine. Let's do this and, as we know, that would not. That would not be a good idea, right? But fortunately we know let's leave baby in until about 40 weeks and we're good to go.

Speaker 1: 6:04

So I share all that, because my journey with pregnancy has reminded me to have patience and reminded me that just because something is hard doesn't mean I'm doing it wrong and doesn't mean that my journey is messed up and I'm less of a person or less of a mom or less of whatever, because of the hard. The hard is what builds at resilience. The hard is what trains us. The hard is what prepares us and in your life and let's bring this back to money in particular, because you know we're on the Money and Miracles podcast when, with money, are you just crossing your fingers, eyes closed, maybe even plugging your ears, being like la, la, la, la la. Someone just magically fixed my money stuff. Someone just magically helped me get more sales. Someone just magically swoop on in and, you know, make me feel amazing about money every single day, all day, every hour.

Speaker 1: 7:24

Right, if you are wanting it to be easy all the time, because, lord knows, I love ease as well but if you're wanting it to be easy and refusing the hard, you're also refusing the incredible, the miracle on the other side. If you're refusing failure, you're refusing success. Think about that. If you're refusing failure, if you're refusing hard, if you're refusing hard, if you're refusing challenge, if you're refusing to push through that mind that says just put on Netflix or just go to bed or just, like you know, don't do that thing tonight, you can get to it tomorrow You're refusing success.

Speaker 1: 8:12

So this comes back to this whole notion of be prepared to be tested, and it's a good thing. You're going to have people in your life that are going to challenge your beliefs. You're going to have people in your life that are going to judge you, and you may experience feeling like you're making traction with your new way of thinking and feeling, when, all of a sudden, you feel like you've taken two steps back. You, my friend, are simply bridging the gap from where you were to where you want to be, and the tests that arise will determine if you go back or if you move forward. My advice keep going forward. It will be your time to choose again, to dig deeper to decide what you will and won't tolerate in your life. And if you're wanting to change your life, you're going to have to be willing to get uncomfortable. But trust me, it is so worth it. Even just I had all the excuses in the world to not record this today.

Speaker 1: 9:20

And there's another thing I'm going to record. After this I'm going to be recording a hypnosis audio for my clients in the Extraordinary Life Experience. And I tell you my brain was coming in hard tonight because I'm solo parenting tonight. My husband's gone out. I put my daughter down to bed and I came up and it was like 8.39, caught up on some messages with my friends and I was like it's nine o'clock, like come on, emily, let's call it a day, let's go to bed. Let's like go to bed, read a book or watch Netflix, like let's, let's not do the things that you said you wanted to get done today. And I stopped and I realized that is my pushback pattern, to be like it's fine, just get to it tomorrow. And I knew that if I gave into that belief that it's fine, you'll do it tomorrow, that that was going backwards, that that was me taking action from the person I was and not the person I desire to be.

Speaker 1: 10:25

And last but not least, I want to share with you a concept it was the first time I've ever heard of this and I freaking love it which is adjustment shock, and it was brought up and mentioned in the book the mountain is you by brianna weist or weester, I don't know how to pronounce her last name, but she brought up this whole concept of adjustment shock and I remember when she shared it was like, oh, like, that's it, that's what it is. And she emphasizes that adjustment shock is a natural part of the growth process and she suggests that, like in recognizing and embracing the discomfort, it is essential for personal development. But you have to understand that the feelings are temporary and they're indicative of progress, not failure. Not I'm doing this wrong. And when you can, I think, just in and of itself, recognizing this is the adjustment shock, this is my pushback, this is me transitioning from familiar patterns to new behaviors, mindsets, and my body, naturally, is going to feel discomfort, uncertainty, resistance. This is the adjustment shock and I just have to push through Right.

Speaker 1: 11:54

And once again coming back to the whole pregnancy, birthing thing, you literally have to push through. Whether you know you, you push through, in a C-section or otherwise, like you gotta. You gotta get that baby out right. The baby can't stay in there forever. You have to go through the hard in order to get to the other side, and on the other side is that incredible miracle that waits for you. So I'm going to leave it at that, just with that little reminder, that little nudge for you today. Be prepared to be tested, know that adjustment shock is real, know that it's worth it to go through the hard.

Speaker 1: 12:34

And if there's any action step that I can leave you with for today, it's this is to find that one thing that your ego, your fear, your comfort, so to speak, would try to talk you into today, and see if you can just give it that little nudge to get out of the way and do your thing. So it could be like, for example, exercising. I had every excuse not to go exercise today. I only had 20 minutes to exercise before my husband had to leave the house and I had to get back and I thought you know what? I'm going to go for my 20 minute walk Like I'm going to do it, even though I was like, oh, it's fine, I don't need to move my body today.

Speaker 1: 13:17

So what's that thing for you where the old you, the point A, if you will version of you, is like, no, don't do that or don't post that, or don't share that or don't mention that. And where can you just have that one little shift to move into and to take action from the person that you desire to be and embody and do that thing today, not tomorrow, not, you know, later on today, like right, pretty much right now, like what's that thing that you can do right now to be like this is who I am, this is who I'm embodying, and this is the test. This is that moment of, even though it seems insignificant, like it's not, like the world's not going to end. I'm not going to die if I didn't do my podcast today. Right, my world wasn't going to be over, wasn't a big deal. But the interesting thing is that those quote, unquote, not a big deal thing is that those quote, unquote, not a big deal little actions that we take accumulate to a big deal in the end, because otherwise you keep going and going and going back to the person that is keeping you stuck.

Speaker 1: 14:36

So let me know what you're going to do. You can reach out to me on instagram. You can shoot me an email emily at emilykingca or my instagram at emilykingca. Let's hear it. Let's build momentum, let's take action. Let's do the thing, be prepared to be tested, be prepared for the adjustment shock. You got this. You're going to get through it. You're already getting through it. Let's do this. All right, you have an awesome day, evening, morning, whenever you're listening to this. Thank you for being here and we'll see you next time. Bye for now.